Month: April 2014

yes-means-yeswhen you think about the word “rape” what do you think about? do you think about power and control? do you think about weakness? do you see women in short skirts; high heals stumbling down a dark, abandoned road? for some, these are just some of the thoughts that go through their head when thinking about the word “rape”. but underneath all those thoughts is one thought that is always present, and that is, sex.

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jackson katz does an amazing job addressing the first lie of my series on “Lies Society Tells You about Rape and Sexual Violence”. his message is truly inspiring and hits so many happy sensors in my soul! there is no need to reinvent the wheel here, but here a few points i’d like to add to this topic.

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Introduction to “Lies Society Tells you about Sexual Violence”

i have had many conversations about sexual violence recently, both in a professional and personal manner. yet i always find myself in dismay at the responses i get when i even mention the words sexual assault or rape. usually the response is a blank stare, mouth slightly open as if to say, “oh my gosh, why are you talking about this?”, and then they just move on to a different subject. i’m left there wondering where the words i just said went. and as much as i want to bring the conversation back, i don’t. why is this? what is it about their silence that silences me?

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Pride and Forgiveness: How Pride Keeps us from Forgiving Ourselves

in my last post i talked about forgiveness. i want to continue on that theme and talk more specifically about forgiving oneself. when many of us think about forgiveness, we rarely think about having to forgive ourselves. sure, it’s mentioned in passing during a conversation or after a break-up. we are told to “give ourselves a break”, but we aren’t told to forgive ourselves. further more, we aren’t really told the damage we can cause to our body, mind and spirit by not forgiving ourselves.

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